Compassion for Judgment?
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By Dalila Adams
February 11, 2023 Compassion for those in judgment; for those that judge you, what do you think? |
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Judgment is a very different thing than assessment, one is healthy and necessary and the other will hold you back. What most people do not realize is many times judgment is a result of a conscious or unconscious self-judgment. Either that, or it is a result of looking through a narrow lens, a limited viewpoint. This can be the outcome of upbringing, life experience or restricted knowledge. Assessment, on the other hand, is an important objective informed decision-making process.
When we have compassion for those that are being judgmental and do not add to their judgmental comments or thoughts nor try to minimize them for their judgment, we allow them to explore their judgments as they are ready. If we immediately agree with them and support them in their judgment, we can promote their judgment and anchor it into them even more which is not a good thing for anyone.
It is not easy to have compassion for someone who is in judgment of you or someone else you care about, but when and if you can get to compassion, you grow into a deeper understanding of that person and of yourself, you grow in consciousness. The problem now is as you are reading this you may be judging yourself for not having compassion! Please do not do that, it is one of the hardest tasks to do, that of developing real compassion for someone that is in judgment of you or of the judgment you have of yourself! BUT, when and if you achieve any compassion for that person in judgment, even the least little bit, you should congratulate yourself because you have moved your consciousness up!
When we have compassion for those that are being judgmental and do not add to their judgmental comments or thoughts nor try to minimize them for their judgment, we allow them to explore their judgments as they are ready. If we immediately agree with them and support them in their judgment, we can promote their judgment and anchor it into them even more which is not a good thing for anyone.
It is not easy to have compassion for someone who is in judgment of you or someone else you care about, but when and if you can get to compassion, you grow into a deeper understanding of that person and of yourself, you grow in consciousness. The problem now is as you are reading this you may be judging yourself for not having compassion! Please do not do that, it is one of the hardest tasks to do, that of developing real compassion for someone that is in judgment of you or of the judgment you have of yourself! BUT, when and if you achieve any compassion for that person in judgment, even the least little bit, you should congratulate yourself because you have moved your consciousness up!
Fueling Our Reality
By Dalila Adams
March 1, 2022
Early this morning, I opened my door and walked to my Jeep only to discover a large deer looking straight at me. She jumped at first and I did too; we were close as we startled each other. Then we both stood there, staring at each other, no fear on either side, just in curiosity and admiration. I softly wished her a good morning and she seemed to enjoy my voice. Then, she slowly walked away moving forward with her day. The sunrise, the quiet, the deer, all so beautiful, so gentle this morning.
Last night, hearing some of the news, I was praying for all that are fighting for freedom and truth and all the victims of violence and war. I decided to bring myself back to center instead of feeling the anxiety that was being created within, and as I was guided to in a recent meditation, was sending out and “blessing all with God’s Love.” When I think of others suffering, risking their lives for the safety of others, that is what I do.
We are at a pivotal time in Humanity’s development, yes, you and I are living through this incredible time of Awakening. I can feel the movement, the disruptions, the resistance to change, the excitement of what is ahead. I can feel the confusion, the anxiety, the frustration, the fear in so many. It is time for us to raise our hearts, to look within and say to ourselves what do I want my life and what to I wish others’ lives?? For me it is Play, Purpose, Freedom, Truth, Knowing my Truest of Self better and better, Love, Peace, Creativity, Health, and Discovery and Learning More about Everything! It is important that we focus and prioritize our thoughts, our words and send our love, our prayers, to our truest of intentions now, for that is how we create, we fuel our individual and collective reality through our thoughts and words.
There is much more coming to confuse and disturb many of us in the days and months that lie ahead. May I suggest, for your well-being and for the well-being of all, take time to clear your head and open your heart as often as you can to the love that is inside of you, focus on that. Focus on those things that are most precious to you and raise your vibration and calm your mind. The more we all focus on the truest of goals and lives we want for us, for all, the more we create it. This is my go-to-place, my safe haven, and I am hoping this helps you to discover yours.
Love to you all.
March 1, 2022
Early this morning, I opened my door and walked to my Jeep only to discover a large deer looking straight at me. She jumped at first and I did too; we were close as we startled each other. Then we both stood there, staring at each other, no fear on either side, just in curiosity and admiration. I softly wished her a good morning and she seemed to enjoy my voice. Then, she slowly walked away moving forward with her day. The sunrise, the quiet, the deer, all so beautiful, so gentle this morning.
Last night, hearing some of the news, I was praying for all that are fighting for freedom and truth and all the victims of violence and war. I decided to bring myself back to center instead of feeling the anxiety that was being created within, and as I was guided to in a recent meditation, was sending out and “blessing all with God’s Love.” When I think of others suffering, risking their lives for the safety of others, that is what I do.
We are at a pivotal time in Humanity’s development, yes, you and I are living through this incredible time of Awakening. I can feel the movement, the disruptions, the resistance to change, the excitement of what is ahead. I can feel the confusion, the anxiety, the frustration, the fear in so many. It is time for us to raise our hearts, to look within and say to ourselves what do I want my life and what to I wish others’ lives?? For me it is Play, Purpose, Freedom, Truth, Knowing my Truest of Self better and better, Love, Peace, Creativity, Health, and Discovery and Learning More about Everything! It is important that we focus and prioritize our thoughts, our words and send our love, our prayers, to our truest of intentions now, for that is how we create, we fuel our individual and collective reality through our thoughts and words.
There is much more coming to confuse and disturb many of us in the days and months that lie ahead. May I suggest, for your well-being and for the well-being of all, take time to clear your head and open your heart as often as you can to the love that is inside of you, focus on that. Focus on those things that are most precious to you and raise your vibration and calm your mind. The more we all focus on the truest of goals and lives we want for us, for all, the more we create it. This is my go-to-place, my safe haven, and I am hoping this helps you to discover yours.
Love to you all.
My Christmas Wish
By Dalila Adams
December 24, 2021
This year I have visited twenty of our States of our beautiful America. I have explored, enjoyed, and been challenged by and conquered many things. It has been a wonderful year of travel, change and new experiences. Blessed for sure and yet I live humbly as not much is needed to keep me very happy. It’s you; it’s knowing I am helping others, it’s inspiring others, it is awakening myself, it is awakening others, it is sharing what I know; it is simply being in nature or with my loved ones…it’s making a delicious meal or laughing with my daughter…it’s being free and happy and just being me. As I write this, I am looking at the mountains while in front of a beautiful Christmas Tree and drinking my morning coffee. What could be better?
My dreams and visions for the future are amazing and exciting and what I dream, envision, and intentionally bring in is not only for myself but for all of us. This is how we bring in the positive, the light, the excitement of creating and reawakening this beautiful world we live in. An optimist? Maybe, but that is how we create change. Tell me we don’t need more light in the world!
What if we all start to dream, to envision, to feel our World as a peaceful place where all are fed, housed, and able to create their unique gifts using their natural inborn abilities? What if we all are creating for our own joy and the pure joy of helping others? What if we do not have to work for survival but rather work for the joy of being, of creating, of helping others?
What if manipulation, control of others, judgment of self, judgment of others no longer has any power?
What if our healthcare is free with only the pure intent of healing and restoring our health?
What if there is no war?
What if our environment is no longer manipulated but rather honored and respected as our source of physical being?
This is my Christmas Wish, this is my belief, this is my vision, and this is what is going to happen. It will not be overnight; clearly it is not today…yet this is what I have seen coming in my vision many years ago. And, while the current state of world affairs show us something very different, I actually see underlying movement towards this positive progression to a better World, a much better World. I see it. I feel it. I know there is great resistance and disbelief, yet, regardless, it will happen. We are changing. Our home planet is moving up and we are moving up with Her.
I can tell you all that we are moving into the fifth dimension and the third dimension is closing but until you start seeing it many won’t believe it. It’s a progression. What does this mean? It means we are becoming more advanced in our consciousness. What I share with you now is from my hope that this will help you to open your hearts to what is coming, to start preparing you for a better world, to give you the hope and the dream that I see as real and is coming.
The next year will be enlightening as it is just the start of our progression. Oh, and COVID is going away… it is… you will see. It was created through darkness and cannot and will not sustain itself … by..bye!
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and
Love and Light to all…and dream on….dream big, dream for all!
Dalila N. Adams
December 24, 2021
This year I have visited twenty of our States of our beautiful America. I have explored, enjoyed, and been challenged by and conquered many things. It has been a wonderful year of travel, change and new experiences. Blessed for sure and yet I live humbly as not much is needed to keep me very happy. It’s you; it’s knowing I am helping others, it’s inspiring others, it is awakening myself, it is awakening others, it is sharing what I know; it is simply being in nature or with my loved ones…it’s making a delicious meal or laughing with my daughter…it’s being free and happy and just being me. As I write this, I am looking at the mountains while in front of a beautiful Christmas Tree and drinking my morning coffee. What could be better?
My dreams and visions for the future are amazing and exciting and what I dream, envision, and intentionally bring in is not only for myself but for all of us. This is how we bring in the positive, the light, the excitement of creating and reawakening this beautiful world we live in. An optimist? Maybe, but that is how we create change. Tell me we don’t need more light in the world!
What if we all start to dream, to envision, to feel our World as a peaceful place where all are fed, housed, and able to create their unique gifts using their natural inborn abilities? What if we all are creating for our own joy and the pure joy of helping others? What if we do not have to work for survival but rather work for the joy of being, of creating, of helping others?
What if manipulation, control of others, judgment of self, judgment of others no longer has any power?
What if our healthcare is free with only the pure intent of healing and restoring our health?
What if there is no war?
What if our environment is no longer manipulated but rather honored and respected as our source of physical being?
This is my Christmas Wish, this is my belief, this is my vision, and this is what is going to happen. It will not be overnight; clearly it is not today…yet this is what I have seen coming in my vision many years ago. And, while the current state of world affairs show us something very different, I actually see underlying movement towards this positive progression to a better World, a much better World. I see it. I feel it. I know there is great resistance and disbelief, yet, regardless, it will happen. We are changing. Our home planet is moving up and we are moving up with Her.
I can tell you all that we are moving into the fifth dimension and the third dimension is closing but until you start seeing it many won’t believe it. It’s a progression. What does this mean? It means we are becoming more advanced in our consciousness. What I share with you now is from my hope that this will help you to open your hearts to what is coming, to start preparing you for a better world, to give you the hope and the dream that I see as real and is coming.
The next year will be enlightening as it is just the start of our progression. Oh, and COVID is going away… it is… you will see. It was created through darkness and cannot and will not sustain itself … by..bye!
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and
Love and Light to all…and dream on….dream big, dream for all!
Dalila N. Adams
Self "Checking-In"
By Dalila Adams
April 24, 2021
There is no better time to start really tuning into your true gut instincts than right now; for if we listen to outside sources with agendas of their own, we will be (are being) guided totally off course. Some of us call this “checking in.” Checking in and listening to our own “gut instinct” or intuitive check is a critical useful tool in today’s times. We also need to recognize that to be accurate in our own “check-in” we need to be clear in our own agenda. What I mean by that is we have programmed ourselves with set beliefs so much so that we do not honestly open up to truth, but rather default and justify any information into our previously set beliefs. Long ago, while taking a statistics course, I learned how easy it is to skew the results towards our own beliefs. Moreover, once we have set beliefs, it will take an Army of new evidence and a dose of humility to move many of us off those set beliefs. Perhaps the sharing of some of my “Mission Center” as listed below will help you.
Now, more than ever, many of us are yearning for authenticity and truth about what is going on in the world, as we have been misled many times by the media and the news stories that are contradicted or later proven to be inaccurate. So what do we do? This is what I do…
First, I do not listen to the news. I discern and choose the most objective outlets of information I can find. I choose those outlets and people that appear to be sharing most of my Mission Center the focus of which includes being Authentic (in Word and Action), Love, Heart-Centered, Integrity, Establishing Peace (inner and outer), Doing Good in the World, Treating Others as I Want to Be Treated, and Connected to Spirit (you can call this Universe or Love or God, whatever it is to you, it is the pure Goodness and Light). There are no outlets that are perfect, and I certainly am not. But if they are striving for these core objectives then their mission is within my Mission Center then I will explore these outlets of information. If, however, their core missions are any of these: Propaganda, Disharmony, Judgment, Promoting Violence, Control of Others, Separation, or Self-Centered Money, I ignore them and will not validate anything they say.
Second, I can “feel” the truth more now than I could before. I can feel it in people. I can see through so much of the nonsense. I can sense their intent. No not perfect, as I have been duped many times in my life, but most of those times when I was duped my gut instinct was telling me truth yet I chose to ignore it and believed the words of another rather than my own truth. Now, I am much more discerning. If someone’s intention is impure or self-centered, then I dismiss whatever they are saying. I also am humble enough to say I was wrong and move forward without beating myself up. This is KEY; especially now. Do not let that stubborn “I must be right” side of yourself get in the way of truth, love, and authenticity (We all have that stubborn side; it takes courage and strength to let that go – becoming humble at times is very empowering and something to honor in yourself and in others).
Who and what do I respect most? Those that contribute to the World through some of the pure core missions included in my Mission Center. Those that are instigating violence towards anyone or any group (this does not include the physical action required for the protection of the vulnerable; our true warriors of light are to be greatly honored) are of such a lower consciousness that they are too far from my Mission Center to give them any consideration at all. Those that are instilling anger or hatred are not near my “wavelength” and I choose not to use any of my energy on such. Most of those that have the most money do not impress in the least; yet if those same people are utilizing their skills and talents to make this World better and are in sync with some of my Mission Center and their money has come to them through integrity and honesty, then I respect them greatly.
It's time for us to discern for ourselves what is true and what is not lining up with Truth and Authenticity. What are you sharing? What are your core beliefs? What is your Mission Center? What are you listening to? Who do you respect the most? If we want truth, it is up to each one of us to honor truth, to ignore intentional untruths, and to learn better how to know the difference. True Intention shows us the way.
April 24, 2021
There is no better time to start really tuning into your true gut instincts than right now; for if we listen to outside sources with agendas of their own, we will be (are being) guided totally off course. Some of us call this “checking in.” Checking in and listening to our own “gut instinct” or intuitive check is a critical useful tool in today’s times. We also need to recognize that to be accurate in our own “check-in” we need to be clear in our own agenda. What I mean by that is we have programmed ourselves with set beliefs so much so that we do not honestly open up to truth, but rather default and justify any information into our previously set beliefs. Long ago, while taking a statistics course, I learned how easy it is to skew the results towards our own beliefs. Moreover, once we have set beliefs, it will take an Army of new evidence and a dose of humility to move many of us off those set beliefs. Perhaps the sharing of some of my “Mission Center” as listed below will help you.
Now, more than ever, many of us are yearning for authenticity and truth about what is going on in the world, as we have been misled many times by the media and the news stories that are contradicted or later proven to be inaccurate. So what do we do? This is what I do…
First, I do not listen to the news. I discern and choose the most objective outlets of information I can find. I choose those outlets and people that appear to be sharing most of my Mission Center the focus of which includes being Authentic (in Word and Action), Love, Heart-Centered, Integrity, Establishing Peace (inner and outer), Doing Good in the World, Treating Others as I Want to Be Treated, and Connected to Spirit (you can call this Universe or Love or God, whatever it is to you, it is the pure Goodness and Light). There are no outlets that are perfect, and I certainly am not. But if they are striving for these core objectives then their mission is within my Mission Center then I will explore these outlets of information. If, however, their core missions are any of these: Propaganda, Disharmony, Judgment, Promoting Violence, Control of Others, Separation, or Self-Centered Money, I ignore them and will not validate anything they say.
Second, I can “feel” the truth more now than I could before. I can feel it in people. I can see through so much of the nonsense. I can sense their intent. No not perfect, as I have been duped many times in my life, but most of those times when I was duped my gut instinct was telling me truth yet I chose to ignore it and believed the words of another rather than my own truth. Now, I am much more discerning. If someone’s intention is impure or self-centered, then I dismiss whatever they are saying. I also am humble enough to say I was wrong and move forward without beating myself up. This is KEY; especially now. Do not let that stubborn “I must be right” side of yourself get in the way of truth, love, and authenticity (We all have that stubborn side; it takes courage and strength to let that go – becoming humble at times is very empowering and something to honor in yourself and in others).
Who and what do I respect most? Those that contribute to the World through some of the pure core missions included in my Mission Center. Those that are instigating violence towards anyone or any group (this does not include the physical action required for the protection of the vulnerable; our true warriors of light are to be greatly honored) are of such a lower consciousness that they are too far from my Mission Center to give them any consideration at all. Those that are instilling anger or hatred are not near my “wavelength” and I choose not to use any of my energy on such. Most of those that have the most money do not impress in the least; yet if those same people are utilizing their skills and talents to make this World better and are in sync with some of my Mission Center and their money has come to them through integrity and honesty, then I respect them greatly.
It's time for us to discern for ourselves what is true and what is not lining up with Truth and Authenticity. What are you sharing? What are your core beliefs? What is your Mission Center? What are you listening to? Who do you respect the most? If we want truth, it is up to each one of us to honor truth, to ignore intentional untruths, and to learn better how to know the difference. True Intention shows us the way.
It's All About Beliefs
By Dalila Adams
written about 15 years ago.
You may not think so. It may feel like it is all about action, but let's open our mind and explore the possibility that our beliefs are the primary impact in our lives.
It's not easy to change our beliefs, It can be for some beliefs, but I know for myself that I have had some stubborn beliefs that require a lot of "conscious revising" to change my life towards the direction I want. And I know this works...but takes a bit of practice and honest internal work.
How do we work our way through our negative belief system?
Through Love. Sounds simple right? And it can be, but it can also be a struggle to love yourself and love another simultaneously through your fearful, angry, and emotionally draining moments.
There is so much to this enveloping concept of "Everything is about our Belief System;" let us just take one prominent tool to help us through this process.
Whenever you find yourself in an unconformable or altercating situation with another person, love and forgive yourself first for how you got yourself in this situation. Then, almost simultaneously if possible, love the other person without trying to fix them, hurt them, or judge them. Do this to the best of your ability and and then see how it changes the experience.
I know it is not easy. I am not saying to tell them that you love them or change your words in any way, but understand that this experience is showing you something about yourself that you can grow from. Are you staying in a place or with another you should let go of? Are they hitting a wound of insecurity within you? So many possibilities to explore. We all act out from our own beliefs. When someone is doing anything negative like blaming or judging you, it is because they are REACTING OUT OF THEIR OWN MISALIGNMENT, FEAR AND/OR PAIN. We all have been guilty of this negative behavior at different tones and different levels. When you stop doing it, and begin to love instead, you know you are becoming a Conscience Communicator, you are raising your consciousness.
This even works when you are dealing with a large company or institution. If your belief is that an institution of some type is taking advantage of you or going to treat you poorly, before your communication with them, change your belief. Envisioin the interaction going well and them actually helping you in some way. By practicing this conscience belief adjustment, you will start to see the difference in your life. It is important to let go of trying to change others, truly just focus on your own belief system.
Let's say you do this, but you are still getting a negative response from another. If you respond in RE-action, you are fueling the old BELIEF and maintaining yourself in that belief system (guaranteed to experience more of the same).
Tell yourself, he/she/they are responding poorly and in your mind you can call them out, it doesn't matter because in actuality they are acting poorly. But at the same time, know and tell yourself it is due to their issues, not yours and you are not to even attempt to try to fix them. Tell yourself I am getting hurt because of my old beliefs, and I want to change that. So, even though I don't agree with them or support them in their actions, I am going to love myself through this and tell myself this is just an experience from an old belief of mine and I am now envisioning myself in an better situation and that this situation is resolved in a positive way for me. It is important to understand you can care about them, knowing their actions are out of their own stuff, but it is your job to change your beliefs and to love yourself enough to open up to new ways of dealing with the situation whether they change or not. You have the right and obligation to yourself to move away from negativity and move towards positivity while simply loving yourself and accepting them as they are.
This is the way you can start releasing your fears and insecurities in the most positive way. You are freeing yourself up through Love. Love really is the most powerful of all.
written about 15 years ago.
You may not think so. It may feel like it is all about action, but let's open our mind and explore the possibility that our beliefs are the primary impact in our lives.
It's not easy to change our beliefs, It can be for some beliefs, but I know for myself that I have had some stubborn beliefs that require a lot of "conscious revising" to change my life towards the direction I want. And I know this works...but takes a bit of practice and honest internal work.
How do we work our way through our negative belief system?
Through Love. Sounds simple right? And it can be, but it can also be a struggle to love yourself and love another simultaneously through your fearful, angry, and emotionally draining moments.
There is so much to this enveloping concept of "Everything is about our Belief System;" let us just take one prominent tool to help us through this process.
Whenever you find yourself in an unconformable or altercating situation with another person, love and forgive yourself first for how you got yourself in this situation. Then, almost simultaneously if possible, love the other person without trying to fix them, hurt them, or judge them. Do this to the best of your ability and and then see how it changes the experience.
I know it is not easy. I am not saying to tell them that you love them or change your words in any way, but understand that this experience is showing you something about yourself that you can grow from. Are you staying in a place or with another you should let go of? Are they hitting a wound of insecurity within you? So many possibilities to explore. We all act out from our own beliefs. When someone is doing anything negative like blaming or judging you, it is because they are REACTING OUT OF THEIR OWN MISALIGNMENT, FEAR AND/OR PAIN. We all have been guilty of this negative behavior at different tones and different levels. When you stop doing it, and begin to love instead, you know you are becoming a Conscience Communicator, you are raising your consciousness.
This even works when you are dealing with a large company or institution. If your belief is that an institution of some type is taking advantage of you or going to treat you poorly, before your communication with them, change your belief. Envisioin the interaction going well and them actually helping you in some way. By practicing this conscience belief adjustment, you will start to see the difference in your life. It is important to let go of trying to change others, truly just focus on your own belief system.
Let's say you do this, but you are still getting a negative response from another. If you respond in RE-action, you are fueling the old BELIEF and maintaining yourself in that belief system (guaranteed to experience more of the same).
Tell yourself, he/she/they are responding poorly and in your mind you can call them out, it doesn't matter because in actuality they are acting poorly. But at the same time, know and tell yourself it is due to their issues, not yours and you are not to even attempt to try to fix them. Tell yourself I am getting hurt because of my old beliefs, and I want to change that. So, even though I don't agree with them or support them in their actions, I am going to love myself through this and tell myself this is just an experience from an old belief of mine and I am now envisioning myself in an better situation and that this situation is resolved in a positive way for me. It is important to understand you can care about them, knowing their actions are out of their own stuff, but it is your job to change your beliefs and to love yourself enough to open up to new ways of dealing with the situation whether they change or not. You have the right and obligation to yourself to move away from negativity and move towards positivity while simply loving yourself and accepting them as they are.
This is the way you can start releasing your fears and insecurities in the most positive way. You are freeing yourself up through Love. Love really is the most powerful of all.
Practice of Generosity
By Dalila Adams
What does the word generosity mean to you? The definition I have chosen of generosity is the seeing..feeling and expressing to others their positive attributes. This is something that is not authentically possible when we are held with ill feelings within. Please know it is also not healthy to express positive attributes of another which are not genuinely felt and known by you.
I do not know anything more positive and rewarding than receiving the generosity of another seeing the positive in me. It sparks a great feeling within allowing me to expand and solidify the attribute they have confirmed. There is such a deep gratitude for those that have authentically shared their generosity because I know the depth of what it has done for me!
On the other hand, I also know when it is authentic or not...it is quite clear when someone is forcing a positive comment just because they think that it is what they should say or with intentional manipulation in mind. It actually "feels" uncomfortable and does not help me to grow. Have you noticed how much or how little you are able to receive positive feedback from another ? Are you able to see the authenticity or, at times, the manipulation of the other person's sharing? Are you able to see that you have a negative feeling about yourself so you can to fully accept their generosity?
A good way to start this practice is to totally focus on generosity to yourself. Sit down and focus with deep honesty as to what are you great qualities. Forget for a moment about all of the self-criticism, and focus on these good things about you. Get to know yourself better. Allow yourself to see all of the good things about you. Take a week and gather information about yourself. Notice the good things that you do and are. Writing these positive attributes down really helps this practice.
Once you have allowed yourself to focus on all of the good things about YOU then you can start to look at others in a different light. Try looking at each individual and see what it is about them that is positive. Everyone has several very positive things about them. Yes, I did say everyone...that may be tough to absorb but just try it. Do not share with others at this stage of your Generosity Practice what you are seeing...just observe.
After a few weeks of this practice go back and look within for one week and discover the positive things about you again. See if you can now expand what you see about yourself that is positive. Has it changed?. Can you see more about yourself than you could in the first week? Most likely you can see much more about yourself as you have opened to seeing others and are becoming truly generous.
You see how this works? Now practice sharing generosity at appropriate times. Be authentic...and share only when it is comfortable for you. You will be amazed at how good YOU Feel as you start this Practice. At some point you will notice this being part of who you are...and notice how much generosity is coming back at you!
What does the word generosity mean to you? The definition I have chosen of generosity is the seeing..feeling and expressing to others their positive attributes. This is something that is not authentically possible when we are held with ill feelings within. Please know it is also not healthy to express positive attributes of another which are not genuinely felt and known by you.
I do not know anything more positive and rewarding than receiving the generosity of another seeing the positive in me. It sparks a great feeling within allowing me to expand and solidify the attribute they have confirmed. There is such a deep gratitude for those that have authentically shared their generosity because I know the depth of what it has done for me!
On the other hand, I also know when it is authentic or not...it is quite clear when someone is forcing a positive comment just because they think that it is what they should say or with intentional manipulation in mind. It actually "feels" uncomfortable and does not help me to grow. Have you noticed how much or how little you are able to receive positive feedback from another ? Are you able to see the authenticity or, at times, the manipulation of the other person's sharing? Are you able to see that you have a negative feeling about yourself so you can to fully accept their generosity?
A good way to start this practice is to totally focus on generosity to yourself. Sit down and focus with deep honesty as to what are you great qualities. Forget for a moment about all of the self-criticism, and focus on these good things about you. Get to know yourself better. Allow yourself to see all of the good things about you. Take a week and gather information about yourself. Notice the good things that you do and are. Writing these positive attributes down really helps this practice.
Once you have allowed yourself to focus on all of the good things about YOU then you can start to look at others in a different light. Try looking at each individual and see what it is about them that is positive. Everyone has several very positive things about them. Yes, I did say everyone...that may be tough to absorb but just try it. Do not share with others at this stage of your Generosity Practice what you are seeing...just observe.
After a few weeks of this practice go back and look within for one week and discover the positive things about you again. See if you can now expand what you see about yourself that is positive. Has it changed?. Can you see more about yourself than you could in the first week? Most likely you can see much more about yourself as you have opened to seeing others and are becoming truly generous.
You see how this works? Now practice sharing generosity at appropriate times. Be authentic...and share only when it is comfortable for you. You will be amazed at how good YOU Feel as you start this Practice. At some point you will notice this being part of who you are...and notice how much generosity is coming back at you!